Sex and Love Addiction

About Sanctuary Lodge Rehab

Sanctuary Lodge offers a full and comprehensive rehabilitation programme for those suffering with a sex and/or love addiction.

Sex and love addiction can be very destructive and soul destroying for both the sufferer and those who love and care for them.  It can be all consuming and the focus of their daily lives, resulting in other interests being neglected.  Sex and love addiction can destroy family and relationships; it can lead to loss of jobs and financial difficulties.  It is a process addiction that centres on the individual repeating destructive behaviours that leave them full of shame, guilt and self- hatred.   Their whole reason for living might well depend on them seeing or speaking to that one particular person or getting their next sexual high.  They will go to any lengths to do so, often breaking their own moral codes of conduct.  Family and partners may feel powerless over their loved ones actions and feel unable to be of any real help to them as they watch them sink lower and lower in to their addiction.  Sex and love addiction is just as serious as any other addiction; it can prevent the individual from having healthy relationships with others, resulting in them feeling very alone, isolated and depressed.  At its worst, sufferers can feel so hopeless that they take their own lives.

An Illness That Needs Treaded like Any Other

Sex and Love Addiction is an illness resulting from poor impulse control, low self-worth and an obsession of the mind.  The sufferer loses the choice of control around their sexual and romantic relationships.  They may be continually chasing their next sexual high or have a history of destructive relationships.  Without proper treatment, it is likely that the problem will only get progressively worse.  If you have concerns that you or a loved one may be suffering from a sex and/or love addiction, we are confident we can help.  Sanctuary Lodge offers an abstinence-based programme that works by treating the root causes of the addiction.  We will provide a full and comprehensive rehabilitation programme to those suffering from a sex and/or love addiction.  Our programme delivers cutting edge techniques, tackling the mental, social, and spiritual aspects of the illness. We use a combination of therapies that are proven to be successful in treating sex and love addictions including Cognitive Behavioural therapy, 12-step therapy, Counselling and holistic therapies.  The basis of treating any sex and love addiction is to show the individual how to have a healthy relationship first and foremost with themselves.

Signs and symptoms of sex and love addiction

More specific symptoms of sex and love addiction can vary depending on how the behaviour manifests in the individual, but there are some general signs that are a definite indicator that there is a problem that requires specialist treatment.  The individual does not need to have all of these symptoms to be suffering from a sex and/or love addiction:

Sex Addiction

  • Getting a feeling of being high from having sex or engaging in a sexual behaviour
  • Obsessing over being able to have sex or engaging in a sexual act
  • Needing more and more sex to feel satisfied
  • Needing more extreme forms of sex or sex that involves an element of danger
  • Having sex with a person or persons that afterwards induces feelings of shame and guilt
  • Engaging in sex acts that afterwards induces feelings of shame and guilt
  • Difficulty in forming meaningful relationships
  • A desperate feeling of having to have sex
  • Ritualistic behaviours prior to engaging in sex, by this we mean, grooming, chasing, and seeking
  • Lack of control around sexual impulses or behaviours
  • Having sex at inappropriate times, in inappropriate places, and with inappropriate people.
  • Feelings of self-hatred or low self-worth
  • Being deceitful and secretive around  behaviours
  • Anxiety
  • Depression

Love addiction

  • Getting a feeling of being high from seeing a particular person, dating or romance
  • Always looking for ‘the one’ and obsessing over it
  • Obsessively searching for a new relationship (this may be through internet, dating agencies or frequenting pub and clubs in search of a new partner)
  • Not being able to finish a relationship unless having started a new relationship first
  • Being unable to stop seeing a certain person that is destructive to the individual
  • Continually entering into new relationships that never become meaningful or lasting
  • Staying in mentally abusive, violent or destructive relationships
  • Feeling depressed, anxious and worthless when single or away from a partner
  • Feeling that being in a relationship will make life bearable
  • Being secretive or deceitful to family and friends about romantic encounters
  • Lack of control around choosing a suitable partner or staying in a destructive relationship
  • Low self-worth and self-esteem
  • Feelings of guilt, shame or embarrassment over romantic encounters
  • Depression
  • Anxiety